Free Time

I ran into a wise friend and fellow teacher on the streets of New York a few weeks ago (I just love that about New York), and as serendipitous meetings go, she walked into my day at exactly the right moment. Knee-deep in my own melodrama, I needed help digging myself out of the proverbial black hole of negativity. When it comes to drama (the kind you wake up with in the morning...for the past ten years) it's no fun to simply "let go". It's far more satisfying to just let the whole thing snowball until the drama becomes self-sufficient...like a grown child who no longer requires supervision and can feed and clothe himself, or a self-watering plant. There's a switch somewhere we can flip, but we'd rather write and star in our very own reality show than shift gears. Attachment, it seems, is reserved for more than just pleasurable experiences (or the pain of our drama is more pleasurable that we'd care to admit).

So there I was, cameramen and crew in stow, going on and on about the same things I've been going on and on about for years, when my friend suggested a technique she finds helpful for just these sorts of things. "When I observe the downward spiral of my negative thoughts, I ask myself, 'If I wasn't obsessing over said drama, what would I do with all that free time?' ". Geez. That's like asking "What do you want to be when you grow up?" The possibilities are endless! What would I do with all that free time?

And suddenly, my mind was frolicking amongst the potential projects I could take on, the dinner parties I could host, the books I could write...I'd even have some extra time to relax. Why didn't I think of this sooner? The amount of time I'd wasted brooding over the past and worrying about the future was alarming...so much effort and absolutely nothing to show for it except my increased blood pressure. Pondering new ventures gave me an immediate feeling of anticipation which, juxtaposed to my previous state of mind, seemed brilliant and long-awaited.

The genius technique outlined by my equally genius friend is one of the cornerstones of yogic philosophy. It's called Pratipaksha Bhavanam, which can be defined as simply replacing a negative with a positive, whether it be thought or action. Rather than a contrived attempt at feeling cheerful about your ever-present melodrama, it's about distracting the mind with something more productive. Elated with the prospect of dinner parties and homemade gift baskets, I lost the desire to drown in my negativity - I had more interesting things to do. So my friends, send the film crew home and start to think about what you'd think about if you weren't wrapped up in your drama. Think of what you could accomplish with all that free time!

Roasted Tomatoes

Roasted tomatoes add instant flavor to any dish and couldn't be easier to make. I use them in everything from bruschetta to lentil salad (and am so proud of myself for pulling off a gourmet taste with minimal effort)! Make them in advance and reap the benefits all week long. You can use any kind of tomatoes you like (I prefer vine-ripened) - cut in half and place seed-side up in an oven proof baking dish. Drizzle generously with olive oil and sprinkle with sea salt. Roast for 3 hours at 275 degrees.

Bruschetta

These are so delicious! Slice a baguette diagonally and arrange pieces on a baking sheet. Rub with garlic, brush with olive oil and sprinkle with salt and pepper. Place the roasted tomatoes on top and bake under the broiler for 5 minutes (watch carefully).

Lentil Salad

God bless Trader Joe's. They sell pre-cooked lentils (in a box) that have amazing flavor. For a cold lentil salad, I add scallions, celery and roasted tomatoes. Drizzle with olive oil (sometimes I add balsamic, sometimes I like lemon juice - but plain old olive oil tastes great). Add sea salt and pepper.

Everyday Bhakti

"There is a frequent misunderstanding of the journey inward or the spiritual path, which suggests to most people a rejection of the natural world, the mundane, the practical, the pleasurable. On the contrary, to a yogi the path toward spirit lies entirely in the domain of nature. Spirituality is not some external goal that one must seek but a part of the divine core of each of us, which we must reveal" (BKS Iyengar, Light On Life).

A life of devotion (bhakti) seeks a sense of heart and home in all things. Yoga transcends the mat and becomes a daily practice of self-study (svadhyaya), revealing the divine in even the simplest acts or the most challenging moments. Of the many paths of yoga, I feel my life is one of bhakti, and so I practice my yoga in the kitchen, in my relationships and on the streets of New York.

This blog is an outlet for me to scratch my domestic itch, and an excuse to share my true loves with you - cooking, entertaining and (of course) yoga! I hope you'll find inspiration, humor and ideas for your life on and off the mat. Namaste!